Although dating a married guy might give you a sense of adrenaline rush, these relationships seldom end well. What begins as a pleasurable distraction may quickly turn into emotional trauma for you and your married partner. What follows is a nasty divorce and a heartbroken family. Even if your married partner divorces their spouse, bitterness and distrust from the past might destroy your relationship.
Consider this: The married man you’re seeing is ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ on his wife. This is what happens when you date a married man!
1. You will never be the number one priority
A married man has a wife and a family. While he might tell you that he doesn’t love his wife anymore, he still has kids.
Those kids are his main priority, especially if they’re young. He has commitments to his family that are always going to be above you.
2. He will never see your family and friends
It’s always a special moment when the person you’re dating finally sees your close friend or family member. After all, this is the person you’ve been talking about for years, and it’s time for that special person in your life to get to know him.
3. He’s probably not going to leave his wife
Very few married men leave their wives for the girl they’re ʜᴀᴠɪɴɢ ᴀɴ ᴀғғᴀɪʀ with.
And the brutal truth is this:
You’re not likely to be an exception to the rule.
Divorce is a big deal. It’s a mess.
And if he has kids then their emotional wellbeing is the main priority.
4. You could be blamed for ruining a family
If the wife knows what happened between you and your husband, then their marriage may be over. Your wife and children will likely blame you for ruining their marriage. This will do huge damage, almost like an attack on your character and worth as a person. No matter who you are, this will definitely affect you.
5. You’ll be waiting around for a long time
Whether he decides to leave his wife for you or not is not the point; the point is whether or not you want to wait around to find out.
There are seven billion people on the planet. Is this guy really worth waiting for? What about his ethics and morals? He’s ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ on his wife? What’s to stop him from doing the same thing to you?
6. You’re missing out on meeting a single man
There are no two ways: He probably won’t leave his wife for you, which would make you another woman. While most women will tell you they would never allow themselves to be another woman, a surprising number of women will think he will change his mind about his wife
7. He won’t support you when you need it
The great thing about being in a committed relationship is that when you’re going through a tough time, you can rely on your partner for support.
But this married man probably doesn’t have the capability to support you wholeheartedly when he has kids and a wife to look after.
He can’t always be there for you. He probably only sees you sporadically as it is
8. You are short term
As long as you’re considered “ʜᴀᴠɪɴɢ ᴀɴ ᴀғғᴀɪʀ,” then I’m sorry to say, but it probably won’t last long. A real kicker? The longer the affair lasts, the less likely he is to bite the bullet and divorce his wife to stay with you.
9. It is tiring to hide.
Having to keep your relationship secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on the wonderful aspects of a relationship. Walking freely and radiantly around the world together can fill you with the light of life.