There are some things men should never say to the woman they love. These things appear insignificant on the face of it, but are anything but. The good news is we are here to show you what you shouldn’t say to your woman
1. “My ex used to … “
Anything you say with the words “my ex” in it will be what you should never say. Of course you can compare your girlfriends, but keep it to yourself. There are inside thoughts and outside thoughts. This belongs firmly to the former category.
2. “Yeah, she’s hot”
Don’t be fooled. Chances are she lured you in with an innocent question, like, “Do you think she’s cute?” shrugging her shoulders like it wouldn’t matter either way. You must lie quickly and reflexively. Whether it’s a girl in a magazine, a Facebook friend, a waitress — whoever — the answer is always no. In fact, you win extra points for casually finding fault in her the closer you look. Watch your girlfriend light up as you say, “Is it me, or is her nose a bit weird?”
3. “You sound just like your mother”
Don’t compare her to others even what they are her mother, her sister, …. You don’t know those people like she does, and you don’t know the full complexity of their relationships. And anyway, everyone wants an independent identity, separate and distinct from their family members.
4. “You always do that”
One sure way to escalate a minor tiff into a nuclear showdown is to use words like “never” and “always.” They’re too sweeping to be true, so you’ll not only upset her, but also give her the opportunity to prove you wrong and seize the higher ground. And it tends to drag every other argument you’ve had into your present one, which is like rehashing all the worst parts of your relationship all at once.
5. “It’s Up to You”
Relationships are full of decisions. You decide where to eat, where to go on vacation, where to send your child to preschool. Most men wouldn’t dream of looking at their wife or girlfriend and saying, “You know what? I just don’t care.”
They would, however, say, “It’s up to you.” And find themselves in a world of hurt they never saw coming.
Men think of decision-making as work without pay. For women, it’s like window-shopping for life’s possibilities, and we want you to help us shop. So when you say, “It’s up to you,” we feel abandoned.
Say: “I could definitely do A or B, but I’m not crazy about C. What are you thinking?” This shows you’re listening, suggests you care, and gets you out of deciding.
– “How Many Guys Have You Slept With?”
– “I’m Not In The Mood.”
– “I Don’t Care.”
– “Have You Gained Weight?”